“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change”
Dr. Brené Brown
I feel every word of this. Being an entrepreneur teaches us some hard lessons as we grow and change! Leaving behind old patterns of behaviour can be painful. But it rewards us with great gifts.
I’m writing this at home, where I’m coming back to land having hosted a brilliant three day, intensive retreat with my clients. They came from all over Ireland and the USA to be here in West Donegal with me and we worked hard together.
It was really amazing watching these brilliant and brave entrepreneurs from every sort of business, dig deep into their story and create their own signature talks. They were so committed to doing the work I had planned for them, on getting super clear on their message to the world. Fired by that incredible entrepreneurial fire, because they understood how important it was. To be able to get ot there, and stand in front of people and tell them who you are and what you do so that they can choose you – this is the fastest path to build businesses. This is how my clients will enrol the clients they want, to make the money they want and beyond.
Over the course of the weekend, we talked a lot about money. Business is about money. And, oh my God it stirs up a lot of emotion in people. This stuff runs so deep and affects everything we do – in business, and in life.
Yet the money conversation is not a common one. Most people avoid talking about money and become vague, embarrassed or even defensive when it comes up.
Recently, I was invited to speak on a National radio station, about my work, my success and my message. It was great. Towards the end of the interview, the presenter directly asked me how much my business was making monthly. He was curious because he had followed my social media and he wanted to know if it was true that I was making 25k a month.
When I replied, that yes indeed that had been true, the airwaves between us became way more intense. This man literally couldn’t believe it, he kept saying ‘wow wow wow’ over and over. He literally seemed so shocked that I didn’t have the heart to tell him it had crossed the 40k a month mark in May!
I explained how I helped my clients go from having no clue to making more in the first quarter of this year in comparison to the whole of last year
I told him how one of my clients was charging 45 euro an hour for what she now charges 2,150 for – unapologetically.
IS that shameful or is that success?
Is being successful linked with feeling shameful?
For a short time after the interview on the radio – I felt shame
And then I caught myself”
- Never be ashamed of working hard and getting paid well
- Never be ashamed for raising your rates
- Your rates are your announcement to the world in your skills set
- Get off the time for money rollercoaster – faster than you can say jump
The reason my company makes so much is because
- I know what works and I have mastered that
- I help my clients go from struggling to succeeding in less than 6 months (if they do the work)
- I have worked morning noon and night for the last years to create freedom financially
- And I have grown with the company to who I need to be, to be able to make a lot of money.
The truth is, you’re not who you need to be today to make the money you eventually want to make, you become another person from doing what you need to do to get what you want. But you have to be serious about getting what you want and willing to do what it takes. We all have some money shame. For many of my readers, we are Irish and that means- our DNA is linked to slavery for God’s sake!
In my opinion, the only way we can push through this is by sharing how much money we want to make – out loud and proud. Money in the bank changes everything. My life is unrecognisable, and I’m not showing off by saying that, but being able to pay myself 2k per week is the single most exciting thing for me, and knowing I made every penny by helping others make the money want too? It’s just a brilliant feeling.